God Didn't Say Get Over It. He Said Come to Me.

Somewhere along the way somebody told you that faith meant getting over it faster.

Pray harder. Forgive quicker. Move on sooner. Give it to God and stop talking about it. And if you were still struggling — if the wound was still fresh six months later, a year later, three years later — there was a quiet implication that maybe your faith just was not strong enough.

That is not what God said.

What God actually said.

He said come to me. Not get over it and then come to me. Not clean yourself up first. Not stop crying and pull yourself together.

Come. As you are. With everything you are carrying. With the anger and the confusion and the grief and the questions you are not sure you are allowed to ask.

Come.

That is the invitation. Not performance. Not pretending. Not fast forwarding through the process because it is making people uncomfortable.

Just come.

The problem with being told to get over it.

When someone tells you to get over it — especially in a faith context — what they are really saying is that your pain is inconvenient. That your healing timeline does not fit into a neat Sunday morning testimony. That the messy middle of your process is something to be ashamed of rather than walked through with grace.

And when you hear that enough times you start to believe it. You start to apologize for still hurting. You start to perform healing you have not actually experienced yet. You start to bury what God was trying to bring to the surface.

That burial does not make you stronger. It just makes the wound harder to reach.

Healing is not a lack of faith.

Needing time to heal is not a sign that you do not trust God. It is a sign that you are human. That what happened to you was real. That the wound went deep enough to require more than a Sunday morning altar call to close.

Some wounds require tending. Consistent, patient, honest tending. And God is not the one rushing you through that process — people are.

God is the one who sits with you in it.

You are allowed to take your time.

You are allowed to still be hurt. You are allowed to still be angry. You are allowed to be in year two of healing something that happened in year one and still not be all the way through it.

What you are not allowed to do — according to nobody with any actual authority — is pretend you are somewhere you are not.

God knows where you are. He is already there. And He is not telling you to get over it.

He is saying come.

If you need a space where you do not have to pretend you are further along than you are — Still Standing. Still Covered. is that space. Fill out the intake form below. Come as you are.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." — Psalm 34:18